Never regret a day in your life.
I know that we live in a world full of fear. At some point in the past couple years, I decided that I wasn’t going to live in fear. Why? Because fear brings on worry. And worry brings on stress. And I’ve had enough of ‘stress’. I decided that I was going to live my life without regrets. To ask God what He wanted me to do each day and to do the hard things. But also to not be too hard on myself. No more will I allow the mean, cruel words in my head about myself. No more will I punish myself by being bothered by what I didn’t get done. I will be grateful for what I did get done. Even if I didn’t do much of anything. I made it through another day, and that’s good enough for now. I will let myself know that the new day brings new possibilities and opportunities to get things done or to do better than before. Each day is another step forwards – not backwards.
I will do my best to learn from every lesson and if possible, to teach it to others. Hence this post; never regret a day in your life. To live each day without regrets you might have to ask yourself this question when you have to make a decision about something: Will I regret doing/not doing this? If the answer is yes, then do it! Without a second thought! I find that getting past that immediately is so much easier than putting it off and wondering about it. If you get that tough thing done now you will feel so much better about it!
If something is on your heart, deal with it. Talk to the person or people that you feel like you need to talk to. Be honest with them and with yourself. Be sincere. Take a step forward even if it is a little scary.
There’s been too many times where I have done things I regretted. Like the time I was at the Christian Worldview Film Festival and felt like God wanted me to talk to a certain person there who looked lonely. I was so nervous, he was an actor in the movie I just watched! But he didn’t seem to really know anyone there and not very many people seemed to go up and talk to him. A couple times I had the opportunity to go talk to him, but I didn’t. Simply because I didn’t know what to say, and I was too nervous and awkward. But I regret that. I felt guilty because I felt like God had wanted me to go talk to him and I didn’t listen. And even though it has been a couple years, I still remember it very clearly. I know that if I had gone up to him, even though it might’ve been a little awkward, God would’ve given me the words to say. So now I use that example to remind myself to do better next time something like that happens. Next time I feel the urge from God to say or do something, I want to make sure I did it.
And the next time I had the opportunity, I did take it! I was getting to know one of my coworkers at my job at Ross and ended up inviting her to something – I didn’t know why I randomly invited her to it, but I did and later I found out that she had been sort of testing me to see if I was trustworthy. And she realized that I was! She had bad trust issues at that time, but she came to trust me simply because I listened to God and said what He wanted me to say when He wanted me to say it. I was patient with her when she was angry at some life experiences and encouraged her with it. We became good friends, even though she is a few years younger than me! And I have had the pleasure of watching her grow in her faith in God and become a much happier person since those days at Ross. I am so happy for her! And so happy that I listened to God with the opportunity this time.
You may be wondering, how does one listen to God? Well, I can’t give you a straight answer as it can be different for everyone. But you have to be actively searching for Him, actively trusting Him. Talking to Him on a regular basis and asking Him what He wants you to do. Saying yes to the opportunities that He gives you. Because trust me, He will give you opportunities when you ask Him to! And most of the time it will be outside of your comfort zone – something that you don’t normally do. Maybe that’s paying for someone’s gas or their meal, or just talking to a stranger. Something out of the ordinary for you. It also might not be easy, if you make a new friend, they will need you there for them. Which can take up more of your time. But trust me, in the end, when you see the progress (or learn about it years down the road or maybe not even in this lifetime) you won’t regret it!
I hope that this post encourages you to step out of your comfort zone and make decisions that you won’t regret! Forgive yourself and learn from your mistakes or the things that you do regret. Make a note to do better next time! Tomorrow is a brand new day to start fresh and do things right.
That’s all I have for today. Bye for now, have a wonderful day!